The Law of Attraction: Amy Soled and Jay Soled

Jay and Amy Soled’s story began thirty-six years ago on a summer blind date. At the time, Jay was a law student at Michigan, and Amy was just beginning her journey at Rutgers Law School. Decades later, both have risen through the academic ranks: Jay is a Distinguished Professor at Rutgers Business School, and Amy is a Clinical Professor of Law at Rutgers Law School.

Because they often teach night classes, the Soleds have turned Newark into their "date night" destination, frequently meeting for quick pre-class meals. Jay is known for periodically popping into Amy’s office with flowers or food. But not all of Jay’s gestures are traditionally romantic. A few years ago, during a Valentine’s Day dinner, Jay went to pull something out of his briefcase. Amy thought it might be a little blue box, but instead, Jay presented a 30-page manuscript on taxation and matrimonial law, inviting her to work with him and share a byline. While Amy laughs that it wasn't romantic at first, the couple now shares a published article.

After thirty-six years of marriage, their advice for maintaining a spark while working at the same university is rooted in fresh starts. "Think of every day as a first date," they suggest. "This way, you’re always on your best behavior."

This story is part of Love on the Banks: Rutgers Love Stories by Evie Duvert for Rutgers Today.